Falling in love is so beautiful, you get all mushy inside, it is literally the best feeling in the world, until you fall into a toxic relationship.
Most often our ‘falling’ may lead into unhappy landing, as some may land into beautiful and happy relationships, others land into premium tears that flows like elegushi beach.
A good relationship is capable of giving you that glow that no organic product can. You glow and radiate differently when you’re with a good partner but it’s a different story when you’re in a toxic relationship.
When you’re in a toxic relationship, you get drained emotionally, physically, spiritually and otherwise! You basically become a shadow of yourself and if not handled properly, leads to depression.
Funny enough or sadly, most people in toxic relationships never know they’re in one! They are deluded that it’s just a rough patch and the person will eventually change, but this toxicity is there for the most part of the relationship.
Its hard to tell when you’re in that type of situation. Everybody around sees it but you’re in oblivion of the fact that you’re in that situationship.
Therefore, when your friends try to talk you out of it or profer solutions, you become upset and most of the times not adhere because you’re not abreast with the matter at hand.
I’ll always advice, “Love is a wonderful feeling, but take your head along” in places where your heart may fail you please use your head to discern what is good and what not!.
Love has a way of blinding people and making the smartest people dumb. In my opinion “love is the ultimate humbler “, That feeling can make the strongest of men, babies, it makes you do things irrational and you’re ready to face the consequences because you dont care.
When you’re in love with a toxic person, the only reason you wouldnt mind is because you’re genuinely in love with them. But is that good for your mental health?, Is it worth the stress and hassle?.
I guess not!. I’ll be dropping few points on how to identify a toxic partner and if you’re in this situation please flee from that person, if not for anything, do it for your sanity.
—A toxic partner is never wrong :
This person never admits to anything, in his books he/she is a saint and has done nothing.
They make your feelings or opinions invalid, you literally have no write to question them and even if you do, its always a problem for them to accept and apologize to you. They are always right in the relationship.
If you’ve had this kind of partner before I’ll suggest you add “ Professional Begger” to your portfolio cause these kind of people will make you beg for two! You’ll get use to begging and apologizing so much that it you’ll do it in a breath.
—They dont care about how you feel—
These kind of people will do the most! They probably forget they’re in a relationship, they act like they’re single and do things that will hurt you knowing fully well that you’re watching.
They trivialize your feelings so much you start to doubt if you’re worthy of feeling anything and when you complain? You’ve subscribed to unlimited dragging! They’ll call you a “nag” and all sort of names.
if you’re in a relationship and you’re always texting and calling, sometimes when you call your partner doesn’t even accord you the respect of taking the call or returning it.
You’re with the wrong person. When you complain they tag you a “nag” but why should a human be begging for the barest minumum??? Bro/sis please flee from this kind of person
— They are always busy :
“oh! Im too busy to have this conversation”, “can we talk about this another time?” “I didnt call you cause I’ve soo busy” “this week was so hectic thats why i didnt text you, i will also be busy next week, so please try and understand”.
Even if you try to call them they dont have the decency of picking up or returning the calls.
No matter how busy you are, a second to reassure “the love of your life” isnt too small to sacrifice.
Ever heard of compromises?That’s what people do when they’re in love. If that person is too busy for you then youre not their priority!
— Toxic partners are the angriest:
They are always in a mood, they get pissed at the slightest. Things that should be taking with a pinch of salt becomes the bone of contention.
They can’t stand anything you do, talk more of dealing with your flaws and most times they even make you feel bad about it.
They always have a way of making you feel worthless!
They are also quick to initiate a break up! They feel like they’re the alpha of your life and they derive joy in your sadness.
They know you love them so much so anything little opportunity they get they don’t hesitate to flaunt it in your face.
They have a way of making you doubt your sanity. When you demand closure they make it seem like you’re overreacting and you do the most.
The last thing a toxic partner will do is reassure of you of their love, Hell no!
They dont even say they love you! When you start asking for reassurance you start hearing lines like “you deserve better” ” Idont want to hold your life down” “if you would like to leave me, do it for yourself”.
They are already tired of the merry go round and they are ready to leave you, but the teeny weeny conscience left in them wants you to do it yourself.
They like to console you, with the feeling that they didn’t leave but all the while they triggered you in to leaving them.
If you’re in a relationship and the bad times are more than the good times, is that situationship even worthy of a title? THINK DEEPER!
It may be hard to decipher all this gymics but you should do it for you, you deserve better. Stop making excuses in your head on why they’d do you like that.
Have you asked yourself why they keep on promising to change but havent made any effort to change. Because they dont find you worthy! The reason why they haven’t left you is because they love the idea of you being at their beck and call, and once they dont have any use for you they toss you out like trash.
You deserve better dear Kings/Queen, your soulmate is out there waiting for you and when you finally meet them they’ll make up for all the times you felt bad and then you’ll truly understand what loves means and you’ll feel bad for all the times you wasted on that toxic relationship.