Love is indeed a beautiful feeling but, relationships are often mistaken to be everything except what it stands for.
Everybody has their own definition or understanding of what a proper relationship should look like.
Nevertheless, just because you have an idea of what something is, doesn’t mean that it should be the same picture you painted in your head.
Relationships sometimes may be sweet, sour, smooth, rocky, and all, “but it is solely dependent on the partners involved and the determination to achieve their personal fairytale.”
Before starting a relationship you have to evaluate yourself and your partner to ascertain if you share the same goals with them and if you don’t, no need to waste time. MOVE AHEAD!
I will be sharing 5 common misconceptions about relationships in today’s article and in no particular order they’re as follows;
- People Think Relationships Are Bed of roses
Humans enter into relationships thinking it’s going to be a sweet ride all the way with no bumps.
They feel it should be like the model “social media” love where they only show the good times and never the bad.
This is a wrong notion. In relationships, challenges and tests are bound to occur, what matters is our reaction to these tests and level of maturity.
Once you know that a relationship isn’t always sweet and your partner will get on your nerves, breakups will be minimal.
What you should do is learn how to tolerate your partner’s excesses and understanding their flaws but, strive to improve their life.
- Relationships Are Poverty Alleviation Programs
This is most peculiar to the female counterparts, although it applies to both genders.
Most girls do not start a relationship because they love their partners, they do so because of what their partners can offer them, the financial benefits ‘et al.’
The theory of love has completely been mistaken as the guys also play a huge role in this madness.
They use the money to entice and lure the ladies into relationships and this trick never fails as most girls are willing to date anybody who has money and is willing to spend handsomely on them.
An average struggling man can no longer afford love and this is not how it was meant to be. “Wahala for who no get money oh!.”
- Every Relationship Must Lead To Marriage
Some relationships aren’t your final destinations, they prepare you on how to act when you finally meet your missing rib. They say experience is the best teacher and it definitely applies in this case.
Don’t beat yourself up if your current relationship doesn’t end up in marriage.
Yes, it is everybody’s dream to marry who they love early enough but we need to understand that not everybody we date would make a good spouse for us and that’s totally fine.
- All Men Cheat.
Aunty abeg die this mentality, see you see Shiloh!
This has become a common belief and nobody is even trying to dispute this fact and this is actually denting the image of the good men out there.
This notion makes ladies insecure and finds it hard to trust their partners even when they haven’t given them reasons to doubt them.
Not all men cheat, only a few insatiable men do.
Don’t get me wrong some partners are from the pit of hell, but this doesn’t apply to all men, some men still have dignity and self-respect.
- What Will Be, Will Be
I have once been cut up in this silly notion, this theory basically leaves everything to “fate”, and most times you never get what you really want.
If you love something, you should be able to hold onto it regardless, you don’t leave everything in the hands of fate.
What will be, will not be if you don’t work towards it. You can get anything you want as long as you’re determined to get it.
Sometimes love isn’t enough, love isn’t all you need to make a perfect relationship, there are other spices that make your fairytale become reality.
You and your partner need to be willing to put in the work to make your relationship fruitful and worthwhile.
If both partners aren’t ready or willing for what’s ahead, then it might be a good time to reevaluate why you started the relationship.